We have a sign hanging in our office reminding patients their headaches are not their fault:
Today I have a headache,
Not because I am a bad or evil person,
Not because I hate my family,
Nor because I am angry,
Not because I am a perfectionist,
And not because I have screwed up,
I have a headache because my body has this disorder…..
…interestingly, I had this in my office years ago, and it was lost in a move; then Paula Kamen, in her excellent book on daily headaches All in my Head, mentioned this sign….I then resurrected it in the office…..